Relationships need work in order to survive that's a given, we need to know that the love we feel for the other person is a true healthy love and not some kind of illusion. Or as some people have been known to do fall in love with the idea of falling in love. This means they love that warm glow and lovely feelings we get at the beginning of a relationship. But unfortunately, that is the only kind of love they want and not the enduring kind that recognises it takes effort, hard work and has its ups and down's too. It's wonderful to be in a relationship but we also must remember to set healthy boundaries and love ourselves a bit more than the other person too.