Give yourself a deadline, even a private one, of how long you’ll wait before making or reviewing a decision. Sometimes we don’t have all the information we need to do this. Sometimes we need a bit more time before we’ll take the next step. This doesn’t mean you are putting something off indefinitely, nor are… Read More Know How Long You’ll Wait

It’s important to know your boundaries. It’s important others do too. It’s up to you to learn what and who triggers your feelings and how you can best respond when it happens. We can’t get away from our responses but we can learn to respond appropriately. How do you respond? Do you shut down? Do… Read More Sometimes Someone Or Something Will Trigger You

We can feel we are letting others down, or being selfish, when we make a decision based on what is good for us. When we do the opposite and  put others first we then feel like a martyr. It is far better for us, and others, to have the confidence to make the decision for… Read More Be Confident In Making The Right Decisions For You

No one likes making a hard call. Hard calls are ones in which neither choice is really great, but we have to choose one. We may have to let go of a partner that is abusing us, a boss that is intolerable, a friend or family member. Hard calls force us to examine our values,… Read More Sometimes We Have To Learn When To Make The Hard Calls

It’s great to have faith in other people. Yes, great friends will be there to support you no matter what. But the most faith should be placed in yourself. You are powerful beyond words and are very capable of supporting and rescuing yourself. This may take the form of asking for help. But it never… Read More Learn To Rescue Yourself

Manipulators want you to give them something. Their weapons are usually negative ones, shame, guilt, fear. Sometimes we are able to disentangle ourselves quickly, set a limit and move on. At other times, it’s not so clear cut. Learn to recognize the signs you are being manipulated. Learn how not to react, stay clear, set… Read More Learn To Effectively Deal With Manipulation

We can all get stuck at one time or another. Perhaps it’s in a relationships, job, with drama from family or friends? We might have liked feeling like this at one stage, but now it’s time to move on. We might need help with this. That’s okay, simply ask for help. Becoming aware of when… Read More Know There Will Be Times When We Get Stuck

We can get very addicted to drama in much the same way as with any other addiction. It can create a pity party for us to hold on to in our heads. It will allow us to stay as victims also. What it won’t do is free us to be ourselves. Nor will it create… Read More Let Go Of The Need To Create Drama

Surrender to all the experiences of your life. You may not have bargained for some of these  experiences, but embrace them any way. These experiences could be the best part of the journey.

We can get anxious, that’s okay. But we can help reduce our anxiety with a little reality check. May be we’re not drowning like we think. Examine your fears and reason things out. Speaking to someone you trust can help to put some perspective on them. Realizing you don’t need to continue to be afraid… Read More Let Go Of Unreasonable Fears