We often look outside of ourselves for happiness and contentment. We think if we just have the new car, clothes, partner, etc., we’ll be happier. Then we get these things and nothing has really changed. We may feel some happiness but it is short lived. Things don’t bring us happiness and contentment, some even sap… Read More Learn The True Value Of Things
Remember ultimatums can be powerful but can also backfire. Ultimatums are often about power plays, they are used to try to control and manipulate people. Have you ever used an ultimatum to control another person? Did you realize that was what you were doing? Sometimes these ultimatums are unspoken. What does this unspoken ultimatum look… Read More Understand The Power Of Unspoken Ultimatums
Give yourself a deadline, even a private one, of how long you’ll wait before making or reviewing a decision. Sometimes we don’t have all the information we need to do this. Sometimes we need a bit more time before we’ll take the next step. This doesn’t mean you are putting something off indefinitely, nor are… Read More Know How Long You’ll Wait
Some situations are ideal we may like what we dealing with. Some are not so ideal, may be we shouldn’t be in this situation in the first place. May be we feel ashamed and can’t leave as a result. Don’t let the shame, fear or guilt hold you back. Talk to others, take advice, read… Read More You Are The Only One Who Can Access What You Can Do
There are no guarantees in life. It’s okay to take some time to develop plan B. Sometimes plan B is our emergency procedures that help us in a crisis. Although it’s not healthy to run away from problems but it can be good to cut away major malfunctions. So if plan A doesn’t work you… Read More It’s Okay To Choose Plan B
Learn to listen to what you say to yourself. Listen to the “buts” when they come. What are they telling you? Are they sabotaging you before you get started? Is that voice inside you yours or someone’s from the past? If it is then it’s time to let it go and move forward. You owe… Read More Learn To Stop Sabotaging Yourself
Compassion can hurt us and others sometimes. Understanding why people act the way they do can aid us in finding compassion for them. But too much compassion won’t hold them accounting for their actions. When we’re feeling too much compassion for another person we can end up feeling victimized further. We end up resenting people… Read More Know When It’s Too Much Compassion
Sometimes all we can do is cope, it’s not living or being free, it’s just surviving. At times coping can become a way of life. We build habits and behaviours that we found useful at one time, but then we find they are no longer useful. We realize we don’t need them to cope any… Read More You Can Stop Coping At Any Time
Are there any beliefs you are attached to? Are they ones that are sabotaging your life? Remember it may take time for you to recognize these for what they are. You may need to let them run their course first. You can then replace them with more positive beliefs.
It’s important to know your boundaries. It’s important others do too. It’s up to you to learn what and who triggers your feelings and how you can best respond when it happens. We can’t get away from our responses but we can learn to respond appropriately. How do you respond? Do you shut down? Do… Read More Sometimes Someone Or Something Will Trigger You
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