Today do at least one thing that relaxes you. Make a list of these things. Explore new things, see what happens. Begin to memorize how it feels to relax. Bring this feeling into your everyday life.

We get the death going, we push, we try to force, we think we are controlling all the possibilities and still it doesn’t happen. Why not relax, let go and surrender. That doesn’t mean you stop doing your part. It means you stop trying to control the outcome. You learn to surrender to the process.

Remember ultimatums can be powerful but can also backfire. Ultimatums are often about power plays, they are used to try to control and manipulate people. Have you ever used an ultimatum to control another person? Did you realize that was what you were doing? Sometimes these ultimatums are unspoken. What does this unspoken ultimatum look… Read More Understand The Power Of Unspoken Ultimatums

Are there any beliefs you are attached to? Are they ones that are sabotaging your life? Remember it may take time for you to recognize these for what they are. You may need to let them run their course first. You can then replace them with more positive beliefs.

Look closely at your life, what is important to you? What could you live without tomorrow if you had to? What would you notice if it was missing? Or is there stuff or people you wouldn’t miss? What are you better off without? Learning to distinguish between what is essential to you is important. Nurture… Read More Learn To Distinguish What Is Important To You

Some situations will arise that we will start questioning ourselves about. We’ll ask ourselves whether we can continue. Sometimes we’ll stick things out, maybe we’re stubborn or may be we think we are being persistent. But, sometimes we take it too far and stick with something long beyond when we should. Instead it’s time to… Read More Don’t Ask Yourself If You Can. Ask Yourself Do I Really Want To?

Spontaneity is great. Saying yes to living your life to it’s fullest is wonderful. But sometimes we need to step back and ask ourselves are we being controlled by our impulses? We can overreact, overspend, self-sabotage ourselves. Sometimes the next step isn’t as clear as we thought and we move forward without thinking. In those… Read More Learn To Ask For Guidance

It’s okay to set limits with yourself and others. This doesn’t mean you’re judging them, it means you get to decide what behaviours are appropriate or not. We can say no and still be compassionate with others. We get to decide how we will take care of ourselves.

Friends and family can take out their anger and frustrations on us. This isn’t appropriate and you are perfectly entitled to protect yourself and hold them accountable. But don’t take it personally all the time either. Remove yourself from the situation if you need to. Let them rant on to an empty room, then approach… Read More Sometimes The Storm Isn’t Personal

We get to start over many times. New beginnings are happening all the time. Death, birth, graduation, marriage, divorce, moving home, the list goes on. We can get scared at these times. It’s okay to feel scared, particularly if we feel our lives have stopped. We think of it as an ending only instead of… Read More It’s Okay To Start Over