Remember ultimatums can be powerful but can also backfire. Ultimatums are often about power plays, they are used to try to control and manipulate people. Have you ever used an ultimatum to control another person? Did you realize that was what you were doing? Sometimes these ultimatums are unspoken. What does this unspoken ultimatum look like to you? Can you recognize it when someone uses it on you? Everyone can reach a limit with another person. But remember, it’s better to be honest about how you’ll express this, rather than use a power play.