self-care

How Do I Do Self-Care At Christmas?

Christmas is fast approaching so what are you going to do this year to practice self-care before the big day?SElf-Care over Christmas

1. Make a list.

Santa isn’t the only one who should make a list for a number of reasons.

  • It helps you stay on budget. By making a list of food, presents etc., you know what’s needed & how much you’ll need to spend. Stick to the list & the budget, you don’t need to go into debt for Christmas. If money is tight & you have a big family suggest that presents are only bought for children & you all get together to have Kris kindle for each child, so that you only have to buy for your own children – Santa – & one other child in the family. Please remember how bad you felt last year trying to pay off that debt, just don’t go there this year. You owe it to yourself to do this & if you are honest with no one else at least be honest with yourself.

  • You get stuff done quickly – if you know what you want you can head straight to a store & pick it up or order online. That’s what I did. I had a list of who I wanted presents for, I headed out, bought what I needed & that’s it I’m finished in one afternoon. This also helps if you don’t like to be in shops when the crowds hit, you can be in & out as soon as the shops’ open & before others arrive.

2. Take some time for yourself.

Christmas is hectic, especially if you are the one hosting. So between now & Christmas Eve, I want you to spend some time just for yourself & relax.

  • Have a relaxing bath at least once a week, light the candles, put in your favourite bath product. Just sink into the bath & relax. If you are a stay at home parent you can always do this after the kids are dropped off to school.
  • Take all your breaks, yes lunchtime, elevenses, 3 pm etc., you need it. Life will go on & if you are so busy that you never take your lunch then I suggest you start doing it. Get outside for at least 15 minutes you need vitamin D & it also helps lift your mood.
  • Meditate try some mindfulness. go on give it a go 10 minutes a day It will change your perspective on life. This is what mindfulness is:  www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWaK2mI_rZw     A mindfulness meditation: www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5uaDoOCMb4
  • Take time to do your hobbies & attend groups.
  • If you’re in a relationship have a date night at least once this week or over Christmas. You don’t have to go out, cook a meal together, set the table & light the candles. Relax in front of the TV or just play a silly board game. If you have children you are showing them how two people love each other in a healthy manner.
  • Try to get to bed on time or a little early, stop all social media on your phone at night & remove all distractions from the room.
  • Try a Journal. Getting your emotions & thoughts out of your head is important. It is a great way to relax & help your mind switch off at night.It doesn’t have to be anything special a simple notebook will do. So starting right now jot down your thoughts, no matter how silly or angry, just get them out & see what happens. Don’t forget to add 3 things your grateful for that day to the end of the page. It will, I promise, change your mind.

Christmas Day

Christmas day can be hard for many of us. So do spare a thought for others less fortunate than yourself. In saying that Christmas can be a time of loneliness & difficulties, so if you know someone who is spending time alone this Christmas spare them some time. Time is a wonderful gift, it costs us nothing but our willingness to give. Check on neighbours to see if they are alright, call someone you know is alone, spending even 10 minutes on the phone with someone is a more precious gift than any present you could give them. If possible invite them to spend time with your family this year.

I know when families get together it can be sometimes fraught with difficulties but this is the time of forgiveness & letting go. I know that is easier said than done. Forgiveness is a one-way street, you forgive the person but you don’t necessarily reconcile with them. That would mean they would have to seek your forgiveness & change their ways. Forgiveness is about you & your mental health, it isn’t about the other person.

When you’re with your family it can cause so many issues to arise from your childhood, past hurts, sibling rivalry etc. So what do you well the good old adage of counting to 10 helps – the mindfulness helps here also it trains your mind to take that step back & think before you speak. Don’t drink too much it only adds fuel to the fire. Breathe – slip off to the loo & inhale for a count of 7 exhale for a count of 11 for 3 mins at least (this is another form of meditation). Do this till you calm down. Don’t take the bait, I know it’s hard, but if you stop dancing with the other guy he has no partner to dance with. Try to enjoy yourself, focus on the children, join in with their games, avoid the family members who set you off. Remember it’s only 1 day! But remember you also have a choice not to spend any time with anyone you don’t have to.

If you or a loved one needs help over Christmas you can call the Samaritans on 116 123 &/or Caredoc Carlow, Kilkenny, Wexford, Waterford, South Tipperary and South Wicklow call: 1850 334 999

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